Navigating Thanksgiving in Recovery
Thanksgiving just around the corner, we at The Prescott House know that this time of year can be both joyful and challenging, especially if you're on a recovery journey. Having been around for 35 years as a men's-only long-term treatment center, we've seen firsthand how holidays can impact those dealing with substance abuse, sexual addictions, gambling, and other process addictions—all often tied to overarching mental health issues.
Understanding Holiday Challenges
Thanksgiving is all about gratitude and togetherness, but it can also bring about stress and triggers that might test your sobriety. Recognizing these challenges is the first step toward navigating the holiday successfully.
Holiday Toasts and Alcohol
Let's face it—Thanksgiving gatherings often involve toasts and freely flowing drinks. If you're in recovery, being around alcohol can be tough. You might feel pressure to join in, but remember, it's perfectly okay to stick to your path. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable about your choices.
Family Conflicts and Stress
Family gatherings can sometimes stir up old tensions and unresolved issues. We get it; being around family who might not fully understand your journey can be stressful. Many of us on staff are in recovery ourselves, so we've been there. It's important to acknowledge these feeling sand have strategies to cope.
Stress and Expectations
The holiday season can bring about additional stress due to expectations of perfection, financial strain, and the pressure to meet social obligations. These stressors can potentially undermine your recovery progress. It's essential to set realistic expectations and give yourself grace.
Anticipating Triggers in Recovery
Planning ahead for potential triggers during Thanksgiving can make a world of difference. Here are some common challenges and how to handle them:
Social Pressure and Temptations
It's not uncommon to feel pressured to join in on the festivities, especially when substances are involved. The presence of alcohol and the social pressure to partake can be challenging. Bringing your own non-alcoholic drinks or having a trusted friend by your side can help you stay on track.
Recognizing Emotional Triggers
Emotions can run high during the holidays. Feelings of loneliness, sadness, or even nostalgia can surface, potentially triggering cravings. Being mindful of these emotions and having coping mechanisms ready can help you navigate them effectively.
Decision-Making for Thanksgiving
Choosing how to spend your Thanksgiving is a personal decision. Whether you decide to attend family gatherings or create new traditions, make sure it supports your recovery.
Attending Family Gatherings
If you opt to join family festivities, set clear boundaries. Communicate your needs and don't hesitate to step away if things get overwhelming. Sometimes, exploring alternative ways to celebrate or setting time limits can be helpful.
Creating New Traditions
Consider hosting your own sober Thanksgiving gathering with friends who support your recovery. This can be an empowering way to take control of the holiday and enjoy it on your terms.
Tips for Celebrating Sober
At The Prescott House, we have our own Thanksgiving traditions. The guys all cook a giant meal together and play games. If the weather's nice, we push all the tables together so everyone eats as one big family. It's amazing how the guys seem to forget they're away from their own families. Creating new traditions can make the holiday enjoyable without the need for substances.
- Communicate: Let trusted family members or friends know about your commitment to sobriety.
- Bring Your Own Drinks: Non-alcoholic beverages or mocktails can help you feel included.
- Focus on Gratitude: Reflect on your journey and the progress you've made.
- Engage in Sober Activities: Games, cooking, or watching movies can keep you entertained.
- Lean on Support: Reach out to your support network when you need encouragement.
Having an Easy Escape Plan
One crucial strategy is to have an easy escape plan. It's perfectly okay to say "no" and leave if you start feeling uncomfortable or triggered. Your well-being comes first.
Know Your Exits
Before attending any event, familiarize yourself with the location and know how you can leave if needed. Park your car in a way that you won't get blocked in, or keep an eye on public transportation schedules.
Set Time Limits
Give yourself permission to stay only as long as you're comfortable. Let the host know ahead of time that you might need to leave early.
Use a Code Word
If you're attending with a supportive friend or family member, establish a code word or phrase that signals when you're ready to go.
Have a Backup Plan
Arrange an alternative activity you can do if you decide to leave early, like meeting up with a sober friend, attending a meeting, or engaging in a hobby you enjoy.
It's Okay to Say No
Remember, it's absolutely okay to decline invitations or skip events that may jeopardize your sobriety.
- Be Honest: You don't owe anyone a detailed explanation. A simple, "Thanks for inviting me, but I can't make it this time," suffices.
- Suggest Alternatives: If you still want to connect with someone, propose a different activity that feels safer for you.
- Practice Self-Care: Use the time to focus on yourself. Read a book, take a bath, or engage in meditation.
Gratitude and Reflection
Thanksgiving is the perfect time to reflect on your journey and appreciate how far you've come. Every sober moment is a victory worth celebrating.
Finding Joy in Sobriety
Embrace the positive changes in your life. Being in recovery doesn't mean missing out on fun. In fact, it can make the joys of the holiday even more meaningful. Many of our alumni have formed lifelong friendships here, proving that support and camaraderie make the journey easier.
Expressing Gratitude
- Journal Your Thoughts: Writing down what you're grateful for can reinforce positive feelings.
- Share Your Gratitude: Express appreciation to those who've supported you. A simple thank-you can go a long way.
- Volunteer: Giving back can provide a sense of purpose and community.
Creative Ways to Enjoy Thanksgiving
- Start New Traditions: Host a potluck with sober friends or volunteer in your community.
- Engage in Physical Activity: Go for a hike, play a sport, or take a leisurely walk to enjoy the fall weather.
- Explore Hobbies: Dive into a creative project like painting, crafting, or cooking a new recipe.
Non-Alcoholic Drink Options
Having tasty non-alcoholic beverages on hand can make social gatherings more comfortable.
Mocktail Recipes
- Cranberry Sparkler some text
- Ingredients: Cranberry juice, sparkling water, a splash of lime, and fresh cranberries for garnish.
- Instructions: Mix equal parts cranberry juice and sparkling water, add a splash of lime, and garnish with cranberries.
- Apple Cider Mule some text
- Ingredients: Apple cider, ginger beer (non-alcoholic), and a dash of cinnamon.
- Instructions: Fill a glass with ice, pour in apple cider and ginger beer, stir, and sprinkle cinnamon on top.
Flavorful Alternatives for Celebrations
- Herbal Teas: Warm and soothing, perfect for the season.
- Infused Water: Add fruits like oranges, berries, or herbs like mint and basil for a refreshing twist.
- Non-Alcoholic Punch: Mix fruit juices with soda water and add slices of fresh fruit.
For more ideas, check out these resources:
- Southern Living Mocktail Recipes
- Ritual Zero Proof Non-Alcoholic Options
Coping Strategies for Thanksgiving
Planning Ahead
Set yourself up for success by planning your day. Know where you're going, who you'll be with, and have a strategy for handling challenging situations.
- Identify Triggers: Be aware of what might trigger you and plan how to cope.
- Prepare Responses: Have polite declines ready for when offered a drink.
- Schedule Support: Plan to attend a meeting before or after the event.
Building a Support Network
Lean on those who support your recovery. Whether it's friends, family, or a community like ours at The Prescott House, having a support system makes a big difference.
- Stay Connected: Keep in touch with your sponsor or recovery group.
- Share Your Plans: Let your support network know your Thanksgiving plans so they can check in with you.
- Offer Support: Sometimes helping others in their journey can strengthen your own resolve.
Managing Holiday Triggers
Stress and Expectations
Acknowledge that it's okay to feel stressed. Practice self-care and give yourself permission to take breaks when needed.
- Mindfulness Techniques: Deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help center you.
- Limit Commitments: It's okay to say no to additional responsibilities or events.
Social Pressure and Temptations
Stay firm in your commitment to sobriety. Remember, it's your journey, and you're allowed to make choices that are best for you.
- Assertiveness Skills: Practice saying no confidently and without apology.
- Change the Subject: If conversations steer toward uncomfortable topics, gently redirect them.
Remember, You're Not Alone
From all of us at The Prescott House, we want you to know that you're not alone this Thanksgiving. It's possible to enjoy the holiday while staying true to your recovery. By planning ahead, setting boundaries, and surrounding yourself with supportive people, you can make this Thanksgiving a memorable and positive experience.
Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude, reflection, and connection. By embracing these elements and prioritizing your well-being, you can navigate the holiday with confidence and joy.
Happy Thanksgiving, and here's to your continued journey in recovery!
